The Power of Community. Stories of Hope, Healing and Courage.

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

The Premiere Oncology Foundation of Santa Monica held their fundraiser event, ”Truth Be Told. Stories of Hope, Healing and Courage.”  It was one of the most powerful adventures I’ve been on. A combination of an inner and outer adventure. It was one of those shaken-to-your-core, wake-up call experiences teaching me what truly matters. When I asked one woman (shown above in the video)  what made her so passionate about life, she said (with a smile) “Because I’m fighting for my life and life is worth fighting for.”

The Premiere Oncology Foundation not only helps their own patients, but they have outreach programs to help other cancer patients, caregivers and their families. They are the only community-based center in one centralized location, providing services that address the physical, mental and emotional needs of patient and caregivers.

Come along with me on this special adventure  (as you watch this 3 minute video) and be inspired, moved and challenged by these courageous people, many who not only got cancer once, they had it two and three times. Several took to the stage to share their amazing story.

-Tracy Pattin

A West Hollywood Neighborhood Adventure. The Hudson Block Party.

Wednesday, August 17th, 2011

Seems there are West Hollywood events everywhere. Last week, it was the Laurel Park neighborhood block party. Saturday, it was The Hudson Block Party, an event co-sponsored by the City of West Hollywood and the Chamber of Commerce.

The community showed up in force Saturday afternoon, evident by the continuous line around the block to get in. It was worth the wait, with great local music, food and drink, adding up to a great communal spirit.

A portion of the proceeds from this event will go toward funding the new West Hollywood Library—whose grand opening will be another wonderful community event happening in this fall.

Get a taste of The Hudson block party in my 90-second video.

-Tracy Pattin

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Adventurize Your Life LA…British Style

Tuesday, April 26th, 2011

As I always say, “Adventures come in all shapes, sizes, packages and experiences.” Today was no exception. When my Runyon Canyon hiking pal (a Brit) and I were talking about my “Adventurize Your Life LA” project, she told me about the Brits in LA Breakfast Club. Immediately I knew it was my next LA adventure.

Every Tuesday, British people living in (and visiting) LA come to West Hollywood, to Cecconi’s restaurant (former home to the Vanity Fair Oscar party) to dine and dish with other Brits from across the pond. And here’s the great thing, non-Brits (Yanks like me) are welcome!

When I walked in this morning, I was expecting a warm welcome, all hugs and kisses, from the regular British Tuesday Breakfast patrons. Instead (at first) it was like any other upscale restaurant serving breakfast. I felt like I’d just arrived from a foreign country, not knowing the language or the culture. I adventurized anyway, attempting to sit at the first round top on my left. The proper British trio looked startled and said “sorry but these seats are reserved.”

Immediately I felt like turning around and running back to my car. But I dipped my toe a little further into the British waters, attempting to sit at the next table. Reserved too. And then, there was a man sitting alone motioning me to sit. I did. And the rest is British history. I ended up having a fantastic time, meeting tons of people (from all walks of life, especially the entertainment industry) and eating a wonderful breakfast!

 

 

Adventure Tip: When an adventure looks unwelcoming at first, adventurize a little more. You may be pleasantly surprised.

-Tracy Pattin

 

 

Upside of Grief. Being Real

Tuesday, February 22nd, 2011

When I began to write this piece, another in my “Upside of Grief” series due to the loss of my brother last September, I wasn’t sure about what the secondary title should be. Then I knew it had to be, “Being Real.”  After 30 years in a wheelchair as a paraplegic, (hurt from a fall in the mountains) my brother had had enough. His body was spent, so he courageously chose his exit. I grapple with sharing this information, but it’s the real story. His real story.

It’s been months now, not weeks since this happened. I’m trying to be courageous like he was. Crying privately, doing the stiff upper lip and getting on with life. I have moved forward, still able to love life, laugh and have great times. But, I realized the other day that in order to really move forward,  I have to be real publicly.

It’s common knowledge that in our culture we’re supposed to put on our game face weeks after a tragedy like this. After all no one wants to be exposed to the daily sadness. And that’s understandable. But if we constantly keep our emotions close to the vest, they will eventually explode, causing an emotional meltdown when we’re not expecting it.

So what do we do? After my own recent meltdown, I’ve reflected on this, going back and forth, beating myself up for showing tears in public. After all, I’m the “strong one” always in charge, this isn’t my “image.”

But then I had a thought. Maybe it’s in our vulnerability that our real courage exists. So instead of my meltdown, maybe it was a meltthrough to the real me. And in that realness, perhaps exists the real healing.

Grief Adventure Tip: When you feel sad, express it. Allow the tears to show. Allow the real you to show. That’s when the real healing begins. And don’t worry, the real support will be there.

-Tracy Pattin

A New Way to Sightsee. Bike Tour Adventure.

Friday, January 14th, 2011


Sightseeing. What does that conjure up? A gigantic tour bus, driving for hours around a city to see the sites, looking through a window to get a glimpse at the points of interest?

Today, I went on a tour unlike any I’ve ever experienced. I wasn’t on a bus, I was on a bike. And, it was more than a tour. It was an exhilarating adventure.

Bikes and Hikes LA, an eco-friendly tour company does sightseeing by bicycle (and on foot for hikes). It’s a hands-on, visceral kind of touring that gets you up close and personal with Los Angeles. Plus the well-versed and entertaining tour guide tells you how many calories you’ll burn! Their “LA in a Day” tour takes you on a big loop all around Los Angeles from Beverly Hills to the beach towns and everything in between. (and by the way, they provide the bikes!)

We started just above the famous (and infamous) Sunset Boulevard and headed for
Beverly Hills.  We then parked our bikes for a walking tour of The Greystone Mansion, impressive to say the least.  Afterward, we cruised along the quintessential wide fancy streets filled with palm trees and mansions. The tour director pointed out famous homes of big Hollywood stars, celebrities and legends. “One of the unique things about Beverly Hills is that each street is uniformed with a specific specie of tree, and it extends through the entire city” he explained.  I’ve been living here for many years and had no idea.

As we strolled down one street we stopped at a driveway. “This was where Michael Jackson Lived. Remember the footage of the ambulance backing out of the driveway? It was right here.” As I stood next to my bike at the gate of this gigantic home, I was suddenly transported to that fateful day in 2009 when Jackson died.” Then, I looked down and there was Michael Jackson’s image stamped on the cement.

We continued gliding through the gorgeous streets, filled with celebrity estates; Dr. Phil’s home, the previous home of Lana Turner where she allegedly shot and killed her boyfriend, the last place Lucille Ball lived, Frank Sinatra’s former home, Jennifer Lopez and Mark Antony’s new home, Elvis Presley’s former home and so many more.

Then we came upon a sweeping estate that took up several city blocks. “This is the second most expensive home in the country. 100 million dollars.” As I looked closely at the wrought iron gate, it had a French name engraved on the golden plaque with “Service Entrance” below it.  If this was just the service entrance, what would it be like to live in such a place? Then I peeked through the gate getting a glimpse of this expansive estate. I imagined myself walking down the fancy driveway up to the front door, then wandering through the house, and laying out by the gorgeous pool, being served a gourmet lunch.

There’s something about being on a bike, immersed in the environment, feeling the wind at your back, smelling the pine trees, roses and manicured lawns and feeling your heart pumping, that takes touring to a whole new level. It makes you feel more alive.

As we cruised through Bel Air, it was time for a short break. The Japanese Gardens were the perfect rest stop. We walked through the entrance right into Shangri-La with cobble stone paths, little waterfalls, bamboo plants, Birds of Paradise, Koi ponds, even a traditional Japanese Tea Room. In an instant, I was at peace, so I had to do a quick meditation!  The sweeping views add a magical feel to this special place. Now I was reinvigorated, ready for the next part of our journey.

We headed off to the flatlands toward the beach. Suddenly, we were catapulted into a completely new environment, with tall buildings, sidewalks and city streets. Then the city streets morphed into expansive roads, filled with beautiful Santa Monica homes.

When we turned a corner, I got a huge whiff of ocean air. I could feel it. We were getting closer to the beach. But first we walked down the Santa Monica shopping Promenade, with cute outdoor cafes and shops.  We hopped back on our bikes and before I knew it, we were riding along a bike path next to the Pacific Ocean. We stopped at the skateboard park on the beach, with its deep cement half pipes and extreme skateboarders. Normally I could care less about watching skateboarders, but there was something about being on a bike, in the trenches, that made me want to be in the moment. I just felt great in my skin.

As we continued along the path, the scene changed from beach condos and skateboarders to the artsy enclaves of Venice. Once again I felt transported to another time and place. This time is was the 60s. Before I knew it, we were cruising Venice’s famous street, Abbot Kinney (a cross between Carmel and La Quinta) filled with boutique shops, art galleries and bistros, We stopped for lunch at this local pizza place and had their special salad pizza; plain warm pizza crust topped with a delicious green avocado salad. After lunch, we hopped back on our bikes and rode to a little path along the Venice Canals lined with adorable cottages. I felt like I was transported again to some quaint little European town.

Now, it was time to start heading back. The long bike path was an easy ride along a river, so I put on my iPod and rode effortlessly, taking in this amazing day; the Beverly Hills estates, Greystone Mansion, the Japanese Gardens, the Santa Monica Promenade, the beach towns, the delicious lunch. I felt so filled up, so sated, and to my surprise, so energized!

After the bike path stretch, we rode through some fascinating ethnic neighborhoods
with women strolling with their children, adorned in colorful, flowing, garb. And then just as I thought we were done, we ended our tour with a cruise up the paparazzi infested Robertson Boulevard (they were out en mass waiting at a famous restaurant to get their money shot of some celeb).

As we rode our last block, I was deliciously spent. It was a full day of touring, experiencing, exercising and pure fun.

I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. It’s the best LA adventure I’ve had.

-Tracy Pattin

To find out more, go to www.BikesandHikesLA.com

Upside of Grief. Thanks…Giving

Thursday, November 25th, 2010

I’m sitting here with my mom on Thanksgiving Day…2 months ago I lost my beloved brother, and my mom…her beloved son, Joe Pattin. It was sudden and shocking for us. In spite of the tremendous grief, we give thanks today for all the love we’ve received and the love we’ve had in our hearts to give to others.

So, if you’re grieving this holiday season, remember there is a gift in grief.  It can open our hearts like never before to giving…and receiving.

We’re excited to keep Joe’s memory and life alive by our project Joe’s Trees (JoesTrees.net). We’ve found this is the way to healing, by participating in something that makes the world better.

My mom and I have spent the day so grateful, in spite of the sadness, for so much meaning we’ve found from this experience.

So today is about the thanks in the giving AND receiving…

-Tracy Pattin

-Kathy Ryan

50 Year Old Jennifer Grey Wins! Great Midlife Adventure

Wednesday, November 24th, 2010

Hooray! Jennifer Grey winning “Dancing with the Stars” at 50 says it all. Age does NOT matter!

Thanks Jen for shining a HUGE spotlight on midlife fabulousness.

-Tracy Pattin

Adventurize Your Midlife with Intuition

Thursday, November 18th, 2010

Blog Talk Radio co-hosts, Tracy Pattin and Lisa Greenfield share their insights and experiences with midlife adventures and hopefully inspire and invigorate their listeners to get out there and adventurize! Each week they talk to another guest adventurizer.  This week they talk to Dr. Lin Morel.

Lin Morel Doesn’t talk about adventurizing her life, she lives it. Dr. Lin is an intuitive who helps people get out of their own way and learn to listen to their heart. Amazing relationships, finances, health, business and a fulfilled, adventurous life are just some of the benefits of living beyond tyranny of the mind. She talks about simple steps you can take to get out of a rut and begin living an adventurized life.

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Excuse me, Miss? (No more Ma’am) Midlife Breaking News!

Tuesday, November 16th, 2010

I went to the Arclight in Hollywood yesterday to see the FABULOUS movie, The Social Network. But before my refreshing experience of a well written, well acted, very smart movie, I was THRILLED by the young guy taking tickets directing me to Screen 2. It was simple. He said, “Hi Miss. Can I see your ticket?” Immediately I gave him big kudos for the music-to-my-ears favorite word, “Miss.” He smiled proudly telling me he learned his lesson after a few “ma’ams to the wrong women, who immediately gave him the “don’t-ever-use-that-word-in-front-of-me-again” look.

I started reflecting on my way to screen 2. The Trader Joe’s Checkers always say “Miss” the gate agents at Southwest say “Miss” the list goes on. Then I thought, Has “Miss” reached mass? Critical mass? That social tipping point where word seems to get around that the “Ma’am” word is verboten.

Maybe those of us on midlife adventures can continue our mission against ageism and for ageless-ism, educating men on exactly what we want and need. (after all, isn’t that why younger guys like older women?)

What’s next? I know. NO MORE “Cougar!”….Let’s find a “Miss word” for that dreaded desperate, prey like sounding term. Any ideas? Perhaps, “Sizzle Chick.”

Adventure Tip: Take a chance and spread the word about what words we midlife adventurizers like. Always give praise when you hear “Miss” instead of “Ma’am.” It’s another pebble in the midlife adventure pond that could have a ripple effect all the way to another great midlife adventure.

-Tracy Pattin

(image from rosesofdistinction.wordpress.com)

Upside of Grief. Relationships & Friendships. Tips and Insights

Thursday, November 4th, 2010

It’s been 6 weeks now since my brother, Joe Pattin, made his exit. It was a sudden and tragic loss. I’m learning to live life without him. We were very close. Each other’s champions for our dreams and creative endeavors. He had to leave. His body was giving out after 30 years as a paraplegic. He made the most of it, living life to the fullest (more than many able bodied people) in every way. So, I understand. I celebrate his freedom.

It’s a new reality when a loved one dies, whether in this way, or in any way. A piece is missing. We can’t get it back. But we can get so much more.

Loss can mean a lot to the loved ones left behind. It’s a time to reflect on our own lives. To decide what’s really important. It can be a time of letting go. Cleansing. And hopefully expanding into an even better, more purposeful life.

They say that when you go through a crisis, you look at the relationships in your life and change some, and deepen others. There has been so much love and support in the past 6 weeks. I feel like I can love more than ever. My heart is “broken open” with the sadness of loss and the joy of all the love flooding in.

My real life began in September when my brother made his transition. I am more authentic, more honest and willing to feel all the feelings when I feel them. I’m not afraid to grieve and not afraid to make the changes I need to make. Whether it’s the relationships or my creative and spiritual path.

Life feels clear. Like a path has opened for me to walk on as the real me.

Saturday is Joe’s Celebration of Life event. It’s a day I’m not looking forward to but looking forward to getting through. I’ll be surrounded by family and amazing friends who’ve supported me over these difficult weeks.

Just as I plan to celebrate Joe’s life, in his spirit and his memory, I plan to celebrate my own life and hopefully live it in a more courageous, compassionate way as he did.

Adventure Tip: Look at those friendships and relationships in your life and decide if they are authentic and satisfying. If they are, go deeper. Love them more. If they aren’t, let them go and wish them well. Make room for new, meaningful connections.

-Tracy Pattin

Please check out our Global Environmental Project, Joe’s Trees, to honor Joe and the planet.